Capturing moments of discomfort

Learn the triggers of discomfort.

As children, fear often drove us to flight. Without the words to articulate our terror, our instincts took over. As we grew older, life taught us to suppress our emotions, but we should never dismiss what our feelings tell us.

Trusting Your Gut

Have you ever walked back into a room and felt an eerie silence? The atmosphere shifts, and you sense something's amiss. Trust your instincts. Those women you thought were genuine might have been talking about you.

Finding Your Tribe

Seek out kindred spirits, people who make you feel like you belong. Trust your intuition. Unless, of course, you're naturally paranoid. In that case, professional help might be necessary.

Toxic Relationships

Throughout my life, I've encountered groups of women who seemed to care but ultimately didn't. No matter what I did or said, I was different in their eyes. They judged me based on various factors: geography, race, ethnicity, confidence, beauty, and how I carried myself. Some labeled me arrogant, but they lacked the self-awareness to recognize their own insecurities.

The Alpha Female

Insecure women often adopt an "Alpha" mentality, viewing other women as threats. They gossip, ostracize, and create a toxic environment. It's a dangerous game, and it's important to recognize these behaviors.

The Sigma Female

As a Sigma female, I've observed these toxic dynamics. I've witnessed arguments, hurt feelings, fights, and the exclusion of women from their groups. It's a sad reality that young and older women often experience.

Avoiding Toxic Relationships

The lesson is clear: avoid toxic relationships. It may seem fun when you're not the target, but it's a matter of time before you become the victim.

Trust Your Feelings

If you sense that someone doesn't like you, trust your gut. It's as simple as that. We learned this lesson in kindergarten: trust our feelings.

Recall

As children, fear often drove us to flight. Without the words to articulate our terror, our instincts took over. As we grew older, life taught us to suppress our emotions, but we should never dismiss what our feelings tell us.

Trusting Your Gut

Have you ever walked back into a room and felt an eerie silence? The atmosphere shifts, and you sense something is amiss. Trust your instincts. Those women you thought were genuine might have been talking about you.

Finding Your Tribe

Seek out kindred spirits, people who make you feel like you belong. Trust your intuition. Unless, of course, you are naturally paranoid. In that case, professional help might be necessary.

Toxic Relationships

Throughout my life, I have encountered groups of women who seemed to care but did not. No matter what I said or said, I was different in their eyes. They judged me based on various factors: geography, race, ethnicity, confidence, beauty, and how I carried myself. Some labeled me arrogant, but they lacked self-awareness to recognize their own insecurities.

The Alpha Female

Insecure women often adopt an "Alpha" mentality, viewing other women as threats. They gossip, ostracize, and create a toxic environment. It is a dangerous game, and it is important to recognize these behaviors.

The Sigma Female

As a Sigma female, I have observed these toxic dynamics. I have witnessed arguments, hurt feelings, fights, and the exclusion of women from their groups. It is a sad reality that young and older women often experience.

Avoiding Toxic Relationships

The lesson is clear: avoid toxic relationships. It may seem fun when you are not the target, but it is a matter of time before you become the victim.

Trust Your Feelings

If you sense that someone does not like you, trust your gut. It is as simple as that. We learned this lesson in kindergarten: trust our feelings.

Where are my peeps?

To find your 'tribe,' start by identifying your passions. What activities excite you? What topics do you enjoy discussing? When you pursue your passions, you'll naturally encounter like-minded individuals. This is a great way to start building your tribe.

Instead of actively seeking friendship, let it happen naturally. Like-minded individuals with positive attitudes and a shared passion often gravitate towards each other.

Be cautious of negative people who can disrupt your joy and happiness. You can still be polite and greet them, but their aura will reveal their true nature. Don't let them infiltrate your tribe. If they truly belong, they'll recognize that person's incompatibility.

Your tribe should be focused on positivity, growth, and fun. They should support each other instead of bringing each other down. True friends are there for you in good times and bad, offering comfort and support.

Join groups that align with your interests. While you might not find a best friend immediately, the chances are good. Leaving behind the toxic gossip and negativity of the 'Alpha' and her followers is worth the effort.

The Betrayal of Family

It's heartbreaking when those closest to us, our family members, prove to be the most harmful. This betrayal can be especially painful when we've shared our deepest secrets and vulnerabilities with them.

The expectation that family members will always be there for us can lead to a profound sense of betrayal when they turn against us. We might have been told that "blood is thicker than water," but this adage can be a cruel reminder of the toxic relationships that can exist within families.

Sharing our pain with family members can feel like a safe space, but this trust can be easily shattered. When family members treat our vulnerabilities with contempt, it can be devastating. It's a harsh lesson to learn that even those closest to us may not deserve our trust.

To protect ourselves, we must carefully consider who we share our deepest thoughts and feelings with. Not everyone deserves the privilege of knowing our inner pain. Choose wisely and ensure that those you confide in have earned your trust.

Healing from Betrayal

Healing from betrayal, especially within family, can be a challenging process. I can't offer a guaranteed solution, but I can share some strategies that have helped me.

When dealing with lies and rumors spread by others, it's often futile to try and stop them. Instead, focus on letting go. The phrase "let go and let God" can be comforting during these times. Offer a prayer for them and avoid revisiting the pain or the people involved.

Remember, you don't need to explain yourself to those who know you. Don't waste your energy on those who don't understand or care about you.

If you find yourself wondering why people don't like you, it might be due to the influence of toxic individuals. Some people follow harmful leaders who can spread negativity and hurt others. Be cautious of these individuals, as their actions can be detrimental to those around them.

Protect yourself by being mindful of who you share your secrets with. Some people may not deserve the privilege of knowing your inner pain. Limit your interactions with those who are untrustworthy and focus on building relationships with positive, supportive people.

The Hidden Narcissist

Hidden narcissists can be found in any relationship, from family to friendships. They can be anyone, from your boss to your spouse, parent, sibling, or friend. Narcissists are often cunning and manipulative, and they can be difficult to identify.

One common tactic used by narcissists is love bombing, where they shower their target with affection and attention. However, this phase is often followed by isolation, leaving their victims confused and wondering what went wrong.

If you suspect you're dealing with a narcissist, research their behaviors online. There are many resources available that can help you identify narcissistic traits.

If you're married to a narcissist, it can be difficult to recognize the situation. You may even question your own sanity. However, once you understand narcissistic behaviors, it becomes easier to see the truth. Narcissists often lack empathy and struggle to take responsibility for their actions. They may blame others for their problems and expect constant attention and admiration.

Recognizing that you're in a relationship with a narcissist can be a relief. It allows you to understand why you've been feeling isolated, ignored, and blamed. By understanding their behaviors, you can take steps to protect yourself and build a healthier life.

Finding Your Tribe

Your tribe can be diverse, just like your family. Do not limit yourself to certain expectations about who they should be. They could come from different backgrounds, cultures, or genders.

Be open to friendship, and you might be surprised who you connect with. Age doesn't matter as long as there's maturity and mutual respect. Focus on feeling good and trusting those around you and your family.

Not everyone is a true friend. My mother often reminded me that genuine friendships are hard to find. You might have many acquaintances, but a true friend is someone you can trust with your deepest secrets, someone who will support you through thick and thin.

Finding a true friend is like discovering a precious stone. Once you find one, guard it and protect your relationship. They are a valuable treasure worth cherishing.